February 24, 2004

Law and Order SVU thoughts:

Premise: Girls in a popular clique at school kill another girl of the same clique, because she hooked up with the ringleader's boyfriend.

People that watched the show tonight might think that a story like that is very extreme and far-fetched. The sad part is that I didn't see it that way. I've only been out of high-school for about 3 years, and I still remember the "mafia-mentality" of those girls. While I was never a target for thier harassment, I knew people who were.

Kids are cruel to each other. High-schoolers are worse. Girls can be the most vicious of them all.

If a boy gets into a fight at school, it's not too big of a deal. That's what teenage guys do when they're pissed at each other, right? They pound on each other until they're pulled apart, and told not to do it again. Girls are very different, in the ways they display aggression. They're not as obvious about it. Girls tend to rely more on the emotional aspect of abuse, they get into each other's heads. Good girls don't get into fights, come home with scrapes on their knuckles or get suspended for throwing another girl into a locker, so they find other ways to fight.

Girls much more subtle about it, and infinitely crueler. Bruises heal, scrapes mend and cuts can be bandaged. But the emotional distress that girls can inflict upon each other can create mental scars that last a lifetime.

Just something interesting to think about.

Note: There's actually books written about this - Odd Girl Out being the most well-known. Definitely good reading, if the subject interests you.